A (Baker's) Dozen of The Realest Things Girls Have Ever Said to Me

Look, only someone that is feeling a bit insecure would write something like this. So in spite of how strong I think I am, maybe I am feeling a bit insecure lately, but isn’t that what writing your feelings is supposed to do? Make you feel better?

So my friend Kim Febres posted this video on her page this morning, I thought I’d share it… 

Cute huh? It got me thinking about so many things for some reason. Random things that are awakened by experience and triggered by emotion, and at the risk of looking a bit corny, I came up with this...

There is a book called “Legends of the Fall,” that was made into a movie in 1994. The author, Jim Harrison, who also worked on the screenplay of the Oscar nominated film, died last week. I remember this one scene in the movie where Brad Pitt’s character Tristian was going to marry Isabel II, played by the gorgeous Karina Lombard.

She is looking at herself in a mirror while her mom is helping her at the fitting for her wedding dress, and there is just this look of overwhelming, child-like joy on her face and in her laughter while looking at herself in that dress that no still could actually capture.

So I asked myself “Have I ever made anyone that happy? Have I ever done anything on such a high emotional level for someone I loved that it would cause that look of genuine joy?” I don’t know, but I realize now, at this stage, that would be nice.

Awwww...

Maybe I never thought about making someone else happy, but maybe I want to now. Maybe I would love to be the cause of Karina Lombard’s smile in that wedding dress scene. But what makes it so hard is that unfortunately, that is not the world we live in now, and even the so-called nicest girls from the so-called nicest families can still betray a man, and this culture seems indifferent to it. I know I am being a bit cynical, but come on, how many stories have you heard on Whisper about a chick fucking some dude the day before her wedding then acting as if nothing happened? Then somehow attempting to justify living a lie. Betrayal is the worst type of pain, but you should not make it worse by staying with the person that you will no longer trust or respect.

But, what if, just maybe, there was another pilgrim time traveler of another time just like you out there, and you just haven’t found each other yet? Well, the secret to finding him or her is to not take out your past bad decisions on them once they arrive. The best thing you can learn from the pain of trusting the wrong person is to make better choices, but never stop trusting.

Every line on this list was actually said to me, and it was said by someone who I was in a relationship with. My ex-girlfriends usually never inspire me to write anything other than cynical criticisms or humorous insults, but I decided not to go that way this time. You did love them once right? I remember every girl who ever said these things to me, and I am grateful that I was able to make you feel that way, at least for a little while.

And so as not to ruin the moment, I will NOT be including any of the greatest things women have ever said to me in bed, (and it’s not like I couldn’t have a list, but that’s not really the point I’m trying to make right now, and NO there will not be a separate blog on this issue later!).

So thank you for letting me hear such wonderful things about me, and maybe I’m not quite done inspiring the good or maybe even the best to come out of anyone just yet. So here they are, in no particular order…

“You’re my best friend.” - MA

Her: “No matter what happens, I know I will never forget you.”

Me: “Well I'm usually the guy no girl ever forgets.”

Her: “Yeah really? Well I know somebody who forgot you pretty quick.” (Referring to her friend who I dated briefly before dating her. Her friend totally dumped me, so although this was certainly not a very nice thing to say, it was pretty damn funny I have to admit, and it was actually one of the few times in my life where I didn’t have a comeback!) - DC

“I don’t know, I just love you.”-VH

“Smell my feet!” -MR

“You really don’t care what anyone else thinks, but I’m not like you” – MA (during a heated argument)

“Wow!” (OK so this one was in bed, what can I say? I try to be mature but I’m a child) – SP(actually smacked me in the face while saying it), XC, CS, MR, CP, YT, ACL,  EP, LA, MA, JMA (was in my car, but still counts!), YA, LJB, WG, PP, DC (was on a soccer field, but still counts!), CR, AVC, NQ, SP

“Me siento tan segura cuando estoy contigo” (Translation: “I feel so safe when I’m with you”) - YR (While near a very large body of water with a wicked current). After thinking more about it, I realized that this has also been said by: AK, SP, JAM, YT, XC 

“You are already better than they are and they know it” – SP (discussing a "co-worker" situation I was dealing with at the time)

“Yes” - MR

“I always thought this song was written about you.” – JMA (Referring to the lyrics in this song by Train)

“You are beautiful” -NMB 

Her: “I Love you.”

Me: “Why?”

Her: “Because you protect me” - VL

“When I read The Fountainhead, I knew Howard Roarke was you.” – YA

"You are very smart and you are also very free, and that can scare some women, because you can't be controlled just by a pretty face, and she knows it, that's what scares some women away from you." - MCC (Sent in a text message so the sentence structure is a bit off)